Project James 1:27

Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.

8:42 AM

Plan B?

Posted by Project James 1:27

If I had a nickel for every time I heard the following phrases, this ministry could fund several adoptions!

  • "We have always thought about adopting but just haven't."
  • "We thought we would adopt after we had our own children."
  • "Oh, she/you/they couldn't get pregnant, so they adopted."
  • "They must not be able to have children of their own because they adopted."
Since this should educate as well as encourage you, let's talk terminology first.  The words/phrase about biological children being our own, whereas adoptive children aren't can be hurtful.   We adopted our twin daughters over two years ago.  They are 100% our children.  They just don't happen to be biological.

Ok, moving on...

The phrases mentioned above indicate that adoption tends to be Plan B, or a second choice at creating a family.  It becomes an "if" "then" statement.  "If I don't get pregnant, then we can always adopt."

Why does adoption have to be Plan B?  For many, including my husband and me, it was our Plan A. 

Let me get personal.  Once my husband and I decided to start our family, a barrage of medical issues arose.  We tackled each one, and pushed forward with growing our family.  We knew it was possible to, but was it important to us to have a child biologically?  Why should adoption be Plan B?  Why should we try to have biological children first?  Who says that's the way it is supposed to be?  Was our ultimate goal to become parents?  Yes!  We wanted more than anything to become parents.  It was at that point, we knew adoption was our Plan A.  If we became pregnant at some point, that was ok too...but adoption didn't have to be our second choice.

Fast forward was four years ago last week that we attended our first meeting with our adoption agency.  It was an informational seminar.  We sat among dozens of other people, who were also mentally begging God to reveal His plan for parenthood.  How did I know?  They wore the same faces of anticipation, joy, emotion, hope, and wonder that we wore. Was it their Plan A?  Or B?  I really don't know.

What I do know is that we were all adopted by God.  Jesus was adopted by Joseph.  Several others were adopted too!  Moses (see Ex 2:10), Samuel (see 1 Samuel 2:1), and Esther (see Esther 2:7)!  Yes, adoption holds a special place in God's heart.  Why does it have to be Plan B?

Had we waited for biological children, we would have missed out on two of the most wonderful, funny, bright, charming, gorgeous blessings God ever created.

Where do you fit in?  Do you already have biological children?  Is your heart big enough to love another child?  Could you be a foster parent?  Could you adopt?  Could you support someone else who is through prayer or financial means?  Ask God!

Are you struggling with infertility?  Are you just starting to think about parenthood?  Remember, adoption does NOT have to be Plan B. 

Thankfully, God knows our hearts and the rest of your story!  Ask Him what His plan is for you and your family!  If you would like us to pray for you, please leave a comment and we will commit to praying!  Email us at

For the Fatherless,



Vonda Fisher said...

How precious! Love this. Special people as you deserve the special children!

alainaw30 said...

Well said. Thank you for your thoughts.

proud mother of MY OWN daughter, who happened to come from another's body.

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